Todays parents are constantly pressured to be perfect. But in striving to do everything right, we risk missing what children really need for lifelong emotional security. Now the simple, powerful "Circle of Security" parenting strategies that Kent Hoffman, Glen Cooper, and Bert Powell have taught thousands of families are available in self-help form for the first time. You will learn: *How to balance nurturing and protectiveness with promoting your childs independence. *What emotional needs a toddler or older child may be expressing through difficult behavior. *How your own upbringing affects your parenting style--and what you can do about it. Filled with vivid stories and unique practical tools, this book puts the keys to healthy attachment within everyones reach--self-understanding, flexibility, and the willingness to make and learn from mistakes. Self-assessment checklists can be downloaded and printed for ease of use.
Introduction I. All Around the Circle: Understanding Attachment and the Importance of Security 1. Attachment: Why It Matters 2. Security: Befriending Imperfection 3. A Map for Attachment: The Circle of Security 4. Being the Hands on the Circle 5. Shark Music: How Our Childhood Echoes in Our Parenting 6. Behavior as Communication: Cues and Miscues II. Creating and Maintaining the Circle: How to Be Bigger, Stronger, Wiser, and Kind-and Good Enough 7. Shark Bones: Exploring Our Core Sensitivities 8. Testing New Waters: Choosing Security 9. Staying Afloat: Choosing Security Over and Over as Your Child Grows Resources